Father's Day

For the past 20 years it seems that fathers have been getting a bad rep in the media. A man who stays to raise his children looks to be an oddity in this day and age according to the media. If you listen and look closely, you may actually see that the media seems to glorify the deadbeat dad. I know these males do exist, but as I enjoyed a nice father's day lunch with my husband, father, and brother, I felt sad for what the media is doing to men. If a stereotype keeps getting exposure, people will start to believe the hype. As a woman of color, I sometimes feel self-conscious of the fact that I have children and yes,...I am married to their father. I feel self-conscious because the media has painted a stereotypical picture that sticks so well in the short term media of American society. So I feel compelled to display a snapshot that isn't "what you may be thinking".

So I want to wish all the fathers a belated happy father's day. I know many of you are working hard, trying to keep your families together, and doing the right thing. I know that some of you fathers want to be better fathers if only the babies' momma would open the door for you to connect with your children. Some women treat you like a sperm donor and don't realize the harm they are inflicting on their children. I feel your pain and I want to say your intentions are good.

As for the deadbeat dads who are content with knowing they have fatherless children roaming the earth, I want to say I hope you wake up and stop being selfish.

Isaiah Washington is Lucky!

I was once a fan of that load called Grey's Anatomy. Season 3 was horrible. The writers decided to turn a good show into a cautionary tale for women. Then Shonda Rimes wanted to "burn it all down" and destroy the characters and their stories. Personally, I think the writers painted themselves into a corner and wanted a "do over" for season 4. Well, if they want a do over, they can have it without me watching it. I would rather watch paint dry.

After IW made his unfortunate comment about TR Knight and went toe to toe with McDreamy, I worried for Washington's future on the show. It's hard to find good, strong, black male role models on television. Either a black man is a buffoon, a sidekick, or an ignorant gangsta on present day television. Besides Mehki Pheifer, IW played a positive role. Dr. Preston Burke was a sensitive yet talented surgeon who was top in his field. He had potential for positive storylines that could've driven Grey's Anatomy to lofty heights. You would think the black women who birthed the brainchild called Grey's Anatomy would've taken that ball and kicked it through the uprights, but they didn't. The story lines for Burke fell into a mundane love story which was interesting and moving, but no where near the mileage they could've gotten out of the actor and his character.

Anyway, after IW called TR Knight a faggot, the whole politically correct world wailed and lamented over the injustice. They were verbally hanging IW on the tree of righteousness and demanding his job. You should've read the posts of nervous PC women wringing their hands in dismay. The world of Grey's became two camps that could not co-exist. Initially, ABC was willing to stand behind IW, but I guess after Imus talked about nappy headed hoes, they felt they needed to remove IW. Maybe ABC fired IW as a way of getting back at Sharpton and his self-righteous intolerance.

Well, at the end of the day, Washington should consider himself lucky. GA is a sinking ship. The ratings are going down, the fans are angry, and the writers are patting themselves too hard on the back for nothing. When he said he is mad as hell and not taking it anymore, I tip my hat to him. He was forced to kiss the collective ass of gays and lesbians. He even checked into a mental health facility to "figure it all out" and get help. He was made to do everything but cut his wrists with a rusty blade on national television for his blunder. Then he lost his job. Well, good for him. It's best to be remembered for being on a show when it was good rather than going down with the rotted ship.

Springtime With Paris

What the hell is wrong with the news media? Everytime I ponder that question, my eyes start to bleed. First of all, I'm neither a fan or hater of Miss Paris Hilton. I'm bewildered by her popularity, but as far as the price of gas is concerned, I can't care less. Anyway, the news media has deemed her legal problems to be headline news. First she's in jail. Then she's out of jail. Now she's in again. How does this effect me? Is there a secret hit-list against blonde women dead or alive being circulated? When I say hit-list, I mean a list that puts these insignificant women in a top ten spot on the hit parade of so-called news.

Paris created her own hell. If she wasn't such an attention junkie and exploited herself with her ridiculous antics, no one would care where she spent her time. But Miss Hilton put herself on the frontlines and now she's paying a humiliating price for it. I hope Lindsey Lohan, Nicole Ritchie, and Britney Spears are watching this media circus with dread for their own future. I hope all the little girls and women with little girls' mentality are watching this modern day Cautionary Tale and taking notes. It's not cute to drink and drive. It's not "hot" to ignore the law. It's definitely not "in" to play ignorance and expect the legal system to slap your wrist with a wink and smile.

Sadly, if Paris Hilton wasn't Paris Hilton, she would be sitting in her comfy house right now with her ankle bracelet doing the rest of her time. I'm sure Paris Hilton wished she wasn't Paris Hilton as she gets checked into the jail for the second time.

Illegal Immigrants

Can someone tell me why we have laws? I wish someone would explain to me why we have laws that people break and the federal government want to give them a pass. They call it a Worker's Program, I call it Amnesty. While my toddler has to take off his shoes before he boards a plane and I have to sample the breastmilk I will feed my infant, an ambitious person from south of the border can wander into this country and get rewarded because they are "willing to take the jobs Americans don't want". We are supposed to be in a time of war. I heard there was this "war on terrorism" going on and we need to "get the bad guys", but our borders are opened wider than the Grand Canyon.

I'm so sick and tired having to breach a language barrier to order a corn dog at the local fast food restaurant. Sometimes I have to dust off my functional spanish to communicate in public. Now after the May 1 chaos at MacArthur Park, LAPD officers are losing their jobs or getting demoted because of illegal immigrants and their supporters. So who are we going to get to replace our officers?

The American people need to wake up and smell the coffee. We're losing our country from right under our feet. We have become a nation of politically correct, guilt filled, pansies. Pretty soon, Americans will become the minority in our own country!